Have you ever turned down sex from a person who was clearly throwing themselves at you? What happened?

I had to do this hundreds of times. I'm not a model or anything, I worked as a bouncer off and on for about 10 years, at large clubs in a big southern city. It just went with the job.

I started when I had just turned 18, and I thought it was awesome at first, because though I wasn't really an outcast in high school, I wasn't super popular either. A lot of the time, they weren't terribly attractive, but they were often enough.

After a while, though, it really started getting on my nerves. Even when they were attractive, usually they were so drunk it would be immoral, or even if they were just tipsy or sober, they were being obnoxious and annoying.

And they would harass me constantly, grabbing my junk, hanging all over me, blowing their hot, ashtray/liquor breath in my face, while I'm trying to do my job. I had to develop this routine where I'd nod my head and go, "Uh-huh. Yeah. Cool," while I was watching the floor to make sure no one was getting killed. And they'd keep yelling in my ear and laughing about dumb shit.

YOU CAN SKIP THIS PART, JUST A DUMB STORY; Anyway, one gross thing that happened that kind of made me hate the whole job was once when my cousin showed up with her friend. They got drunk as hell, and stopped by my spot to say hello a few times. When they finally were leaving, she comes up to give me a hug, no big deal. But then she leans in, puts my hand lower down on her back and starts rubbing my chest and looking in my eyes. Whispering weird shit to me, I forget what she said. She actually was very pretty, and my buddy is looking across at me smiling, like he wants to give me a thumbs up or something. And I'm thinking, "No man, this shit isn't cool." I put her in a taxi, and afterwards, my buddy was like, "Yo, why didn't you hook up with her?" "Fuck no, she's my cousin." He started laughing so hard, he tripped over this piece of carpet by the bar and busted his ass.

ANOTHER DUMB STORY; One awesome thing that happened was one of these regulars that hung out in the Latin room (she was Nicaraguan and gorgeous) started doing this flirty thing with me. I definitely reciprocated that time, because not only was I really into her, but she had been seeing this dickhead NFL player that used to act like an asshole in the VIP section all the time. I hated this motherfucker, the owners didn't like him because he owed them thousands and refused to pay, the girl didn't like him because she found out he was married, NO ONE liked this bitch. He thought he was a superstar, but he was like third string on a shitty team. To be clear, I WASN'T into her just to get on this guy's nerves, she was actually really cool and smart; his aggravation was just an added bonus. So, I start seeing this girl, he gets pissed, starts shit with me. I got the okay from the boss, and ended up dragging him out the back door by his dreadlocks, picking him up, and throwing him in the dumpster. It was funny as hell.

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