Everyone in my life is sympathetic to my husband's infidelity and think I should forgive him.

I’m so sorry that you’re ill and dealing with this. I was in a similar situation in that everyone in my life wanted me to stay with my husband when he cheated. I think most people in my life wanted me to stay with him because we had a child together. He was always seen as a nice guy who’s not capable of something like that. Still, it pissed me off beyond belief. It was very isolating because I felt like no one was on my side. I already struggled depression and that loneliness took me to the darkest place I’ve ever been in my life. If it weren’t for my child, I don’t know how I would have pulled myself out.

So, long story short, I stayed with husband. I still sometimes can’t believe I did because infidelity is one thing I have always thought is truly despicable. It’s one thing I said I would never put up with.

I didn’t stay because my family and friends wanted me to though. My husband knew there was no excuse for his actions. He actually assumed that I was going to leave him when I found out. However, l stayed because he changed and I changed (I was no angel). He put in a lot of work to gain back my trust and to this day is transparent about everything, but I know if we didn’t have child together I would have left. I still am not completely over everything that happened.

I guess the point I’m trying to make is that my husband never put the put the blame on me or the situation, ever. He took full responsibility and he made the necessary amends. I’m not saying you should stay though. Do what is best for you regardless of what others in your life think. However, if your husband isn’t taking full responsibility for his actions and isn’t willing to put in the work to make things better, than I personally wouldn’t stay if I were in your situation.

Also, the relationships with those people in my life have forever changed. Some I have forgiven, some I have forgotten. I will never turn to my family for support again.

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