Is maybe the reason you are asking again is because you didn't agree that a large number of people said it wasn't transphobic?

The way I see it is everyone should be able to choose what they like. If it comes up in discussion someone should be able to honestly communicate what they prefer. Some have a more solid preference than others. Why would someone want to be with someone (I'm meaning romantically) if they know they don't like it?

I've had this debate with straight, gay, and trans people. If a trans person can decide what genitals they prefer to be with, why couldn't a non trans person?

My lesbian friend explained it like this; she knows she likes sleeping with someone who has the female anatomy. If there is a mtf person who has female anatomy she'd sleep with them, but if not she wouldn't want to. Why? Because her preferred genitals are those of a females anatomy. And she also says explains she couldn't call a girl homophobic just because that girl wouldn't want to sleep with her because she was straight.

And the way I see it anyone should be able to make that choice without someone saying they are being phobic towards someone. Where it isn't okay is if people will say hateful things or slurs to someone because they don't like someone else's genitals.