I cannot dissagre more with someone than I am right now with Debbut. What else this father is doing then "catching her when she fell". She is not rebelling, she was 14-16 when 20-22 y.o. man had sex with her. I don't think she did her own choices. If she was in a relationship with her peer she probably would have her first sex when 17, 18... She needs therapy. This strict talk about any kind of nudity she's been doing could be because of feeling guilty of having sex. Again I mention therapy...

Seems to me that the father decieded to make a legal act. Don't know about the american laws and hope some lawyer would jump in, but she is/was underage and this comment of yours doesn't make sense to me. Please give comments like your own only if you are a lawyer or a psycotherapist. I assume that you are not either of that by certainity of your proclamations: "do that", "tell her this", etc.

For the father, only thing I agree is that the kid is not beyond redemption, in any situation a lot of positive can be done and progress can be made. Try therapy. Try what you can with restraining order. You seem like a good father. Speak to her as much as you can but also do a lot of things with her without mentioning this, having just a nice family time. If she stays with him (pregnant or married) you should probably then accept that... it happened to many other people that their kid married some douche and they had to live with that and try to make things better for them. And I would always mention this to my daughter: "Whatever happens, you can always come (come back) to us (to this house)." My parents told me this in my personal crises and when I seemed like I was not listening, I memorized this.