I honestly don't think he will ever come out, to be honest. His job progression and work relationships would be at huge risk, he works in a very male dominated job that is only just starting to accept the LGBT stuff, fine for girls, not so much the blokes. His parents are very conservative and have always made comments about gays/bis etc not being normal and how disgusting it is. I totally understand why he's been so secretive and I'm not sure he'd ever of told me outright had I not found out - though in hindsight there has been a few things that would make you wonder if he was hinting at telling me.

It's not really the sex bit I'm expecting him to talk about, to be fair. More just how he's dealing with it, what I can do to support him, how long he's actually felt like this and stuff. Just generally talking to him about it. It's not the elephant in the room as such but I do feel he probably wants to but doesn't have the courage or is worried I will judge him. That said, I'm not in his head so I can't say for sure.