Your last point invalidates everything you said before. People don't just turn into fucking sociopaths when they get a ring on their finger. Only marry someone you have dated and lived with for several years and you will be fine. I dated my partner for 4 years before we got married two years ago. No relationship is perfect, but nothing you said applies to my marriage lmao. We eloped and spent maybe $200 on the ceremony and certificate before traveling in Europe. Her family lives across the country and has no influence on our lives. We each see our friends all the time and have our own hobbies.

Sucks your marriage didn't work out, but your comment is just projection.