My current partner is half asian, though from Hawaii, so his asian family is culturally different. I did date a full taiwanese guy and this probably would have been us had we stayed together. While polite, i could tell his asian mother was always skeptical of me.

One important thing to do is to not use your expectations of a close western family as a measuring stick. That is to say, other culture’s families just have a very different dynamic, even to people within the culture. I have had asian friends talk about how stiff and formal their family gatherings are. Not all, but it varies.

Secondly, asian that I have come to know can be much more race conscious. Interracial couples will always have a different reception.

You should definitely talk to Neil and get his input...but a lot of this i don’t think you can change or control. You’re just going to have to be gracious being the odd man out like my partner’s mom was as the only white person married into the family.