And no, I don't only date men of my race. In fact, I've never seriously dated a man of my race. There's more than just black and white people on this planet.

So all the men of color have never ever in your experience mentioned that they had never slept with a black girl before, but the vast vast majority of white guys have?.. Really?

What's the difference here? Why isn't a man of color just as likely to be one of the ones who would mention it as a white man is?

if you began to avoid, especially if they surprised you with this shit after seeming like they would be okay. Keep in mind, this isn't just one white dude or a couple of white dudes in one area. This is me dating across the US and encountering it time and again. In an intimate or potentially intimate context. Personally, it's just not worth it to me to keep trying, unless I see way beforehand that they're not like this.

I've never implied you personally need to change your behaviour. I'm just incredulous that only white guys do this to you, and that you seem to think only white guys are capable of doing.

Why do I have to be the first black girl someone's banged?

In fairness to them, they'd probably love being the first white guy you've banged. I sympathize with the reasons for confusion (assuming similar sexual preferences in your partner to those that you yourself have).

I know you say reasons don't matter just before this, but they do for the generalization.

Why can't I be a girl with the bomb pum pum that made him feel amazing? Does he also go on to keep count of every black woman after me, or was one time enough? It's shitty to have my race brought up in this context. It literally makes me feel used and to even equate that with racism is shitty on your part too, because again, you're over here arguing with me about my personal feelings on who I let into my bed and why, rather than dismantling all the bullshit that has led to lots of non white women experiencing this exact same thing.

Lol, so you think no PoC has ever said "you're the first white girl I've banged!" to a white woman?

My sample size is small but you're using some false equivalence with "all black girls" in your rowdy men comparison.

Not really, because you're saying "all white guys," in America.

I'm willing to be surprised but encountering that shit over and over and being averse to doing so again is not racism.

being averse to doing it isn't racism.. implying it's only something white men do is racism.

again I'm not trying to change your behaviour, I just don't see how this is unique to white men and black women. It's the classic "a woman from every country," thing.