The same way you made time to plan your vacation or be there for your friend during the mental health crisis.

It's... not really the same to me... yes I made time to book flights for my one-time big post grad school vacation, but that doesn't mean I have time for a literal second job. and yeah I'm not going to compare taking care of my friend in need to dating, that steamrolled me emotionally and I hope to not have to do it again (for me or my friend's sake). That wasn't me not knowing my boundaries, I'm going to be there when my friend is literally in the hospital.

Please don't imply I'm not serious about it or not putting in the work, I'm asking for some practical advice on how people manage that work (and the emotional rollercoaster) when adult life, unexpected events + a full time job (plus PMDD, for me) are already exhausting. Your post to me just reads "yes, it's work, suck it up" which is not really helpful. If that's all the advice I can get then... yeah, I'm probably going to die alone.