How do you feel like you are a certain gender?

To be fair, I don't. I don't even feel like I have any gender. I just hate the entire concept of gender itself. I believe that anyone can wear pink, blue, do sports and make up and have "feminine" or "masculine" qualities (like being kind and aggressive) without being labelled as women or men Or other.. The entire idea surrounding gender irks me and I want to completely be genderless. Sex makes sense to me, gender doesn't.

I don't know if that makes me trans or not, I don't want to do anything to change who I am either to be categorized as a particular gender, I just want to reject all gender identities.

I also don't know if it's because I'm cis and because I never had gender dysphoria, and that I'm privileged for that so like most cis people I don't think about gender identities or "feel my gender ".

I still primarily use the pronouns she/her because I don't understand what I am. But I do get irked by stupid gender generalizations. I get called a man often on the internet because of the way I talk but I never bother to correct people. Some refuse to even believe that I have a vagina but that doesn't bother me anymore. At this point I don't care if I'm seen as a man or anything. I don't look any different than a typical woman in terms of my physical appearance. and I don't plan on changing anything about myself to cater to any gender identity. Be it non binary, woman, men or anything else.

So in the end, I don't understand anything and I hate the entire concept of gender.

I wish someone would shed some light on what I am but the few times I have expressed this, I was berated by trans community. So I apologize in advance.

/r/TooAfraidToAsk Thread