I think some people don't understand, the point of these kinds of jokes are to show that you are so comfortable with someone else knowing that both of you are playing with each other. It builds a sense of camaraderie being able to say these taboo and obviously fucked up things understanding that it's meant in jest. This is something that just doesn't happen with someone you just met at lecture hall. In my opinion, it's the only real thing that allows you to relax and be comfortable with someone else because you don't have to be "on guard" and explain that these don't reflect your true political/social values. One of my friends is a tall buff white dude but also a complete sjw and gender & women studies minor: our nickname for him is Adolf (though we don't call him that in public lmao). Also, the super vocal "sjw" types that go off on someone tend, ime, to be the ones that don't get this and are kind of off socially (though sometimes it's totally justified because they've gone through some fucked up shit), though there are also the super cool ones that joke with you (sarcastically roll their eyes lol).

I guess a good example would be my group of friends where I'm the only half asian one and they're white/hispanic. One of them is really funny, when we'd meet up he'd like handshake/broshake each person one by one, then for me he would do an Asian bow and say something like "Ching chong bing bong" then pretend like nothing happened and talk about sports or something lol.

Anyway, yeah I feel for you man, idk how to actually get to that point. Maybe look into joining a frat?