Sometimes I think of my ex-girlfriend, but it's often just random girls. The act itself is what I think about or how it leads up to it. Weirdly enough when I stopped watching porn it was sexual thoughts without any love, more about dominance and dirty sex. But about 2 weeks in the thoughts became "softer" and it was more about making out, being close to each other etc. I even noticed that porn fucked me up a little bit, because in my relationship I would constantly try to have sex. I don't think my ex-girlfriend and I made out for more 10 seconds once, without having sex. Now I imagine how nice it would have been to just be close to her all night and to make out, without sex.