I can certainly see some of what you are talking about when I think of my Mother (TBM, in her eighties, now) – very busy, thriving, fulfilled, etc through her various roles and contributions within the church, but she also had a career outside the home when we were growing up, which was more unusual at that time, and compared to other families that I knew growing up in the church, the division of labour btw my parents at home was more equal - I have also witnessed many small and quiet acts of subversion on her part, in relation to the authority/power of the priesthood over her life. And I have also been privy to her extreme pain and distress in relation to several (probably more) instances of the abuse of that so called authority in terms of being undermined, silenced, reprimanded etc for not staying within the bounds of her limited authority – things she has only cried/talked to me about as the only exmormon in the family because it is safer to do so. Not even to my father. And yet recently I told her that is was she who planted the first seeds of feminism in my mind and she was horrified – and fell straight back into line with the women are special, we have our own imp roles, we don’t want the priesthood etc, etc. It is a conundrum. But I have rambled on – and thankyou for your post OP, because for the first time it has made me think of my Father, and ways in which he might also have been constrained or unhappy with the expectations placed on him, and some of the ways it might have troubled him personally, and in relation to my Mother. So yes, Thankyou.