I think your POV and his reaction are both understandable. You felt left alone to drift through this frightening experience, threatened with losing everyone and everything you've known.

Oddly enough, he probably felt the same way, but with that nagging little Church voice -- really the echo of hundreds of church stories & leaders -- telling him "it's her fault!" Both reactions come from a place of hurt, but are also demonstrations of love, in a sense, in that both of you care so much about everything that it just pushed you into separate corners when one of you -- you -- realized the Church was telling you lies.

He will probably come around one day. If he does, try to have empathy, and try to hear him out.

Otherwise, he'll be here on this sub someday saying "finally decided to bail and my DW says 'too little too late'. WTF? I gave her the space she seemed like she wanted and now shes telling me I'm the bad guy. I hate this fucking Church!" Or something like that. Sorry for rambling.