Well, firstly, you need to have a think about how you feel regarding all this type of play, and a chat with your partner. Have an open mind. This type of play, and even more extreme, can be totally safe, loving and can leave you more open and vulnerable to someone than you ever could be otherwise. You bond.

Everyone has different kinks. It's all about finding intersections on what you both enjoy, and this can only come from experimenting, both together and just by yourself - it sounds like this is all very new for you. You're only a month and a half in! That's nothing!

I enjoy incredibly rough sex. You have to learn to trust your partner. She is experienced. She knows her body. She knows you're the person hurting her. She knows she's safe. She knows to use her safeword when things need to stop. She won't want to, she'll strain and push herself for you, to let you keep going - but she'll use it when she needs to.

You're still learning your own limits, both emotionally and physically. You're allowed to be vulnerable. You'll need comfort, and you have to let her give it to you. Let her reassure you, just like you must reassure her.

You will hurt her - but everyone gets hurt during sex, it just happens. You'll know when it's 'real' pain, and you'll respond.

Go slow. You're new. Let the beast out slowly. Try to be a controlled, focused, cold and brutal beast. Not so much a primal one, yet.

Did any of that help?

Oh, with her being on top, how physical do you need to be? Can you grab her jaw, pull her head down so you're nose to nose, staring in her eyes and demanding that she ride you as hard as she wants you to fuck her?