Honestly, I am your girlfriend but not so much as spending his money recklessly, I don’t really ask him for much.

I suffer 4 different mental illnesses and it has GREATLY impacted my relationship. I would talk to her, ask her how she’s feeling maybe there’s something going on with her other than just laziness and tell her how you feel. My boyfriend talked to me about how he wasn’t happy because I always bitched at him and on top of that he’d have to pay the bills. I pay for my own car and the cable and internet, phones for my my son and I and food but we do eat out a lot and although he has a well paying job it most definitely weighs heavy on him.

I recently quit my job and after talking to him he thought I quit because I wanted to spend time with him on his time off from work but it’s all due to anxiety. He talked, I cried BUT listened to what he had to say and although it hurt to hear that he thought some things of me when I’ve been independent and hardworking before if I want to stay with him I know I have to go back to school and finish those 3 classes because he doesn’t want someone uneducated. I have to stop smoking because it’s not healthy and he hates the smell. I have to get a job because it’s not fair for him to carry most of the financial weight in the relationship, I already started applying at places and I am no longer being picky about where I work because I value my relationship more than my pride.

Talk to her. If she was hardworking and independent before she might be going through something. If she loves you she will understand and want to change.