My SO has also had two abortions.

Well, one was by choice, and the second the pregnancy just stopped developing and it seemed like her body was not rejecting it.

The first time she was young, depressed, and had a serious problem with a guy whose condoms always seemed to "slip off". (My assumption is that he was too small to fit but I'm biased.) She always said that if it was at a time where she could even take care of herself and she was with some one that was fit maybe things would be different. But it wasn't, and she just could not bear the thought of doing something that warranted so much responsibility knowing that she could not deliver financially or emotionally.

The second time, I remember the moment the decision was taken away from us. It was strange. I thought I had made my mind up and so did she, but when you hear that there is nothing you can do it makes you wonder about all sorts of possibilities. After enough time passed and nothing really happened she went back and her lady doctor helped her out. From my point of view the aftercare was the same.

I'm very proud of her for understanding herself enough to know whether or not kids would be right for her. I think she's very caring and would make a great mother someday when she's ready. I don't think there is anything wrong with that not being right now. And I think it's a good thing that people like her think enough about what we as humans should do and want for the future. A lot of people have kids for selfish reasons or because they are uneducated about sex. I have met women who have had babies out of wedlock because God says abortion is bad. I think people should worry more about what is best for the society as a whole instead of what makes them feel better about their mistakes. And stop demonizing people who do, because that is the opposite of what a lof of people seem to preach.