The answer is easy... bail. However, doing so may not be so easy.

I'm a 24 year old male, in a relationship for almost 2 years now. Like every couple, we've had intense fights, although rare, but they've happened. Some have been while intoxicated, some have been completely sober.

There have been times where I've wanted to scream at the top of my lungs, and I'm sure she's felt the same way. We've actually let it slip once or twice over the past couple years.

When we lose our cool, we let it be just that, a hot argument where we both want to speak more than listen. However, I've never got to a point where I wanted to physically attack her, ever. I've never cocked a fist, I've never put a hand on her, and a man (or woman) never should.

Yes, alcohol makes people act out in ways they typically wouldn't when sober, but it cannot be the excuse for his actions. His mind, even if it was cloudy, was still his. He controlled his actions, and he lost his composure to a dangerous level.

We obviously know nothing about him, or about your relationship. Until he seeks appropriate help, you should try to cut off communication. Someone who would lash out physically clearly needs to work on themselves mentally. However, he needs to work on himself FOR himself, not to win you back. If he's doing so to win you back, he'll check off a few boxes, make sure you know he did so, and then expect you to take him back.

There's absolutely still a chance you two can make it work. Right now is not the time, he needs to stabilize himself before being able to commit to you the way a man should. Never feel like you owe him anything.

PS - I'm in marketing, I took one psych class in college, so take this all with a grain of salt.

Good luck to you both!