Hey fellow LL here. My husband is more HL. We had a lull a few years back and I realized it and here we are 5-6 years later. Think about sex as showing him appreciation and love. For my husband its not only physical, but emotional. He feels loved and desired when we have sex. What does he like that you normally dont do? Do it! Get excited about surprising him...because you know it makes him happy. For example, my husband LOVES oral and specifically having his balls touched/rubbed. So if Im not really in the mood for sex but he is...I will give him a BJ. It does not happen all the time for him so its a treat and shows him I care. Dont make him feel like you dont like sex. Another thing to consider is foreplay. Make sure he is taking his time turning you on. My rule is if he initiates I will always do my best to reciprocate because he is telling you he needs a release. Tell him you want it to be sensual and slow...make him work to turn you on. It may be different for you guys but sex is sort of an act of service...BUT he should never feel like its pity sex or a duty. He shouldnt feel like hes taking advantage you...get into it as best you can...initiate changing positions, go on top, touch yourself, bring in a vibrator etc To me, sex has never been better. I just had to change the way I thought about it. Its about pleasing him and making him feel wanted. Because you do want him...but he needs to see it, and since he is more HL sex is one of the main ways to show him that.

Also try new things and experiment! Bring handcuffs or blindfolds...read erortic novels together with the rules of not touching each other...keep it fresh, and it wont feel like a chore.

Work on it now..or he will leave you..or cheat on you. If you guys just cant...then maybe its not going to work...but give it a try! If you truly love him....try!