I've gained a lot of power from my skills and sometimes its easy to want to fire people or get people fired but I can't really condone it despite how much I can feel compelled to do this.

I've had some me or them battles and I always win. Sometimes the other person really is a lost cause but sometimes not and I have to reflect on myself. When it comes to bullies, I'm able to very quickly turn around and become the bigger bully or basically stand up to them.

I'm not sure if in your scenario I would want to make my problem between such a person that of management. It varies a lot though. I have often fell into a leadership role, not on account of people skills but knowing what to do being a doer and being able give direction letting others know what to do or how if necessary. From that position I always ask myself if I could have been better, perhaps in my people skill, if in cases like this the worst had to happen.

The last time I had this battle was with someone else with Asperger's. However the situation was really fucked up. They also had comorbid personality disorders of a various kind. I can't say what because I am not a psychologist but you didn't need to be one to see some very serious problems that were clearly not only Asperger's. It was however clear that Asperger's was a compounding, perhaps even synergistic component with that. It gets a lot worse. The company fucked up as well. They let this person refer an ally only a couple months of employment and then start referring more people to build pretty much their gang.

The absolutely terrible part of it is that this hire was deliberately a diversity hire. They didn't officially know of my condition because well, I've managed to adapt thanks to being forced to adhere to normal standards so it's not really something I go into much other than just to let people know that I am weird and I don't know what it is going on with people when they do that strange little dance, I guess maybe they're wondering if its them or there's some meaning to my behaviour, I guess letting people know lets them dismiss the distraction.

So this person though is very big about their diagnosis and being disabled. A company gets certain benefits for hiring disabled more people too. The company also believed in women's empowerment. There's also a loophole in UK law where you can discriminate in favour of disabled people as much as you like. I am not kidding. You can pay someone 100K when you would normally pay 10K just because they have a limp or something.

What this meant is the company hired this person with Asperger's, with not even two years specific experience in a very sophisticated field as a senior. Instant promotion. As problematic as this person was on their own account consider that for a minute. That is a horrific position to put someone in. Meanwhile, everyone else on the team or joining was significantly more capable, experienced, educated in the field, etc. It reached a horrible point with this person saying they have impostor syndrome, well, they were an imposter. This resulted in situations arising where I had to openly say this, that they're a fraud, not competent, etc. This person had no situational awareness at all or ability to pick up subtly (ironically though very socially manipulative). They were grossly incompetent for the position the company had put them in, was screwing things up and then fighting tooth and claw against any effort anyone made to fix this and the way the company had set things up it was impossible to get in any kind of structure. Before things got out of control I talked to HR, the line manager, the personnel officer and explained the situation. I said it makes no sense to have this structure for a team, some of us are senior, have been principle engineers, etc, have years of experience, have accomplished far more with those years than the average person has but no it was all about some kind of egalitarian horror where they were terrified to not treat this person in anyway differently to others that might seem a disadvantage because they were disabled so it didn't even matter things like someone with 8 years proven commercial experience (and a bit of a prodigy, promoted over people when much younger based on performance, not rep, etc) play another 12 years academic, personal, etc, another with 20 years commercial, another with around that commercial it wasn't possible to assign a technical lead to have the authority to make a decision and shut down an argument rather than have what should be a five minute discussion turn into a massive screaming and shouting match in the office.

After a month of that and management not being able to man up to do the most basic thing or admit their incredibly embarrassing mistake of hiring a junior with serious neurological difficulties as a senior on a project of high important in a poor shape that needed to be rescued with deadlines as well I simply walked out, in the middle of a meeting. The manager once again pandered to this person basically saying to undo the work we had done to fix what they had tried to do and do wrong, because this person insisted on doing it and then everyone accepting it whether it was wrong or not, worked or not and if they didn't get their own way they would kick up a huge storm. It's the first person I have ever really hated. It's just attack attack attack. Ignoring details and really caring about nothing but getting their own way. I wouldn't even mind that but their way was catastrophically and provably (yet, mathematically, systematically, according to graph theory, logically) wrong every single time. I don't like hating people, it makes me feel like a bully but this is the first person I found myself calling "the monster" because it was just natural and true.

I calmly walked out of the meeting and that was it, went home, had a beer, called the agent and told him what a fuck wad he was for contributing over selling someone with neurological issues that you know, might not have a great grasp on reality and that might actually buy into the way you're overselling them.