I'm happy you exist. That whole ceremony sounds exhausting ngl. It's nice sometimes and I get the effect, but Jesus that is not maintainable in any real sense.

I've been woken up to blowiob before only to climax and then hear "I didn't finish yet". If I'm then expected to flip you over and gently peel back your lingerie I'm going back to sleep, lol.

Take your time, kiss down the body, act careful with her if she likes that. Lick around the clit in smaller softer circles and gradually apply to tongue pressure until it's too much then back it off like 15% lol. Flatten that tongue out gradually.

If you're doing it right your tongue will be bored and aching.

Two fingers to just past mid joint lubricated. It's more pressing outward than inward. Think about gently stretching the opening of the vagina like widening a circle and use the length of your fingers to press into the wall of the vagina (towards the pelvic floor). Not too hard against the wall though focus the pressure on the part of your finger that the opening is wrapped around.

Don't dance the tip of your tongue around the clit like you're trying to write something for too long, that's not going to get it done - but don't move into the money rhythm right away either because it won't feel good unless they're eased into it.

Think about making your tongue into a firm wet gentle piece of sandpaper and vibrating it over the clit with directional motion to finish.