The language of sexual negotiation must go far beyond ‘consent’ and ‘refusal’ if we are to foster ethical, autonomous sex

How would you know? Assuming you're a straight dude, that is. If you had a one-night stand with a woman who you thought was up for it, but who was actually simply going along out of fear of what you might do if she didn't, you wouldn't know it.

I've never had a woman not ask me out another time after having sex (or doing something sexual).

A lot of the issues arise because women are, on average, way better than men at picking up on body language and subtle social cues. So if they start getting hot and heavy with a guy and change their minds, to them, their change in body language is screaming "no, stop". Whereas to the man, nothing seems to have changed at all.

Evidence for this?

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