"I like you, you're different. You ask about my life and interests. Most guys on here just want sex."

It's not a "view" of anything, it's intrinsic and unchangeable (in my experience). I haven't had the length of time to express myself like /u/gardengoblin has, so you'll have to take my word that I'm of similar disposition and character. I have never done anything aggressive to hurt another person intentionally and have nothing but respect for strangers, especially women, who I understand have an entirely different daily struggle to deal with.

Despite seeing myself as a genuinely 'nice guy', what do you think my first thought is when I see an attractive, scantily-clad young girl walking down the street? It doesn't matter if she's my age, rather young, rather old, etc. There's an involuntary, uncontrollable reaction to seeing that that is conquest, gratification, etc. And that's putting it in much nicer words than the brain conjures... I'd be absolutely lambasted by society for ever hinting out loud at what's going on in my head. It feels gross to have to have those thoughts in the first place; I'd love if I could walk by a 20 year old in tight shorts and simply not notice, but alas.

It actually opens my eyes a bit to the problems with rape and male on female violence. It seems ridiculous that women in Muslim countries are expected to wear these coverings in part to prevent male temptation. But when faced with my own temptation I can absolutely understand how 'lesser' men (ie: less impulse control, with other worldviews, or living within a more 'primitive' societal structures, whatever you want to phrase it as) can't control themselves. Given the 'chance to get away with it', or being raised in a framework that either embraces it or at least doesn't shame it, I can absolutely empathize with the problem.

Like gardengoblin said, this doesn't mean 'all men are evil'. Simply that we have in us completely selfish, animalistic urges that we essentially carry with us everywhere. Part of being a good person is recognizing and learning to control them. And evidently not every man can.

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