He never once brought up how much he missed her. Just money. George as well as his whole family have always been materialistic. He always thought he could buy kate with presents that his mom would get.

Let me say this though, when george and I were together he was ALWAYS an attentive and loving dad to kate. BUT whenever we werent together he would use her as an excuse to see me and ignore her when he would stop by. George has told everyone around town he wants to kill gary for "stealing" me. That he'll never give me up. Even though he has a fiancee he still keeps a picture of me in his wallet so I'm told from mutual friends. I'm concerned this is another ploy to get to me through kate and her feelings don't matter to him. My biggest concern though is I dont know if I should let him see her and try to make a relationship with her again.

Will her father coming in and out of her life be worse for her than him not being around at all? Should he explain to her why he is so flakey and that it has nothing to do with her? Should I just let this go or try with visitations again. Kate wants to see him and as of recently she thinks he cant see her because he lives in another town. I don't want her to have to make excuses for him all of her life.

However, my bio father was a lot like george but a way way worse person in general, and I remember as a young girl none of that ever mattered to me. If he wanted to see me, I wanted to see him. I loved him. Now that I am older and he is deceased I feel there is a huge void and absense of self awareness because I didn't know half of where I came from. Good or bad. Please help me make sense of all of this and make the best decision for kate.