Absolutely. I wish this post was getting more attention. I learned this the hard way. My roommate racked up a bunch of noise complaints to the point where we were one violation away from an eviction notice (it takes many!). I was away traveling on business almost every time. I would come home and say we need to respect our neighbors and the TERMS OF OUR LEASE. I started wondering why our neighbors weren’t texting her when music was just a little too loud in the late evening. Turns out, one time when family was visiting and I was away with mine, that she had told our neighbors something along the lines of “well I have family visiting so you’re just going to have to deal with it.” Wow that made me fume. She completely lost the respect and communication with our neighbors, so they were contacting the property managers instead of us FOR MONTHS. It got to the point where I was basically parenting my roommate (and wondering when that one next violation would come and we would be evicted) which is never a fun place to be in with the person you share a living space.

If I had known the above, it would have made much more sense as to why my roommate is so bad about talking about even simple things like bills, splitting shared goods, relationship, etc. She’s a good person too, but didn’t care enough about the simple, adult things like respecting the rules and your neighbors.