A part of me agrees with this, however I spent almost 2 years with an emotionally abusive boyfriend and this is exactly what I did, so when my friends finally saw one of his outbursts they didn't understand and told me I needed to really think about this relationship and where I wanted to go with it.

I was never aloud to do anything with friends without him tagging along, and if he did we'd have to leave the minute he wanted to otherwise it was a fight. If he ever got mad he'd start throwing my things around and one time threw my phone at me, he also took one of my picture frames and smashed it over his knee while calling me a bitch, as well as alot of other nasty things. My dad has cancer and he would get mad at me if I went home for more than a night (my parents lived an hour and a half away), only time I could stay longer than one night was if he was with me and he would just sit on his phone and would complain the entire time about wanting to leave. The outburst my friends saw was him calling my one friend a cult leader after she tried to get him to call a cab because he was too drunk to drive and continued to yell and scream at everyone who was just trying to help. There's more but I'll save you all the long read.

Yes I know I should have gotten out alot sooner but he was my first real love, first guy I ever lived with. Just had so many firsts and I always thought things would get better because I loved him and he would always promise things would be different and that he would never act like that again.

Long story short if I had told my friends alot more of the details or really anything about whats going on, I probably would have really seen what was happening alot sooner and would have saved myself alot of time and self-esteem. I didn't want anyone to not like him, and looking back I realize I felt like that because I knew everyone would hate him and I wanted them to see him the way I did. Ladies, if this at all relates to you GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN. People like this don't change!