I (female) took my ex's dogs after being in a relationship for 3.5 years.

He didn't take care of the dogs and would get in trouble with building management when my German shep would jump and try to bite people...

I had to take the dogs because he didn't know how to control them... And he was smoking crack cocaine $1200 to $2400 a night on weekends every 3 weeks because he's "a high functioning addict".

Obviously this is not the case. Your ex disappearing from her family is highly concerning.

But I'm drunk and just wanted to reach out and say it's not your fault. You couldn't foresee this coming.

And next time... Do like what I'm doing and take the relationship slow with the next person. I'm with my current bf for 2 years and we only see each other once a week even though my dogs adore him more than me.

You will find the right person for you. Just hang in there. I'm wishing you well that you get your dog back.