This just happened with my wife and my best friend, well I should say I just found out that it had been going on for the last year. We have two children to complicate the matter. Yeah, I decided to stay and dropped my best friend who I've known longer and was more surprised to find out his role in their relationship than hers.

If I can forgive her, I can forgive him...but his wife won't let him see me anymore even though I did nothing wrong. Presumably, she doesn't want to be reminded of what her husband did to her while she was pregnant or run the change of him running into my wife again.

I cry a lot because I miss my best friend - I only had three people that I consider friends. One of the remaining two suddenly seems like he wants nothing to do with me and the other friend is largely unavailable because he just had his first child with his wife. So I'm basically all alone. My wife still has all of her friends but I'm not supposed to discuss this with them any more.

So now I'm in therapy, but once a week isn't enough. I have no one to talk to. I'm really, really lonely and miserable. The main joy that I derive is the few hours a day after work that I get with my kids. Meanwhile, my wife has been fortunate enough to live as a stay at home mother over the majority of the last ten years.

I just have to shut off my brain and keep moving forward because during the process of working through things I got her pregnant with our third child (we both firmly support the right to choice, I've been through it once before with an ex from eons ago, but are both adamantly against it for ourselves).

She won't get off of facebook either, which irks me to no end. Literally can't spend an hour with her without having her spend time on fucking social media. But I'm not going to be controlling so I bit my lip.

I don't know. I never planned on my life going in this direction. Fuck everyone. I had no control over my own life. Fuck. Just fuck.