I wish this angry 'word police' people didn't assume they spoke for everyone in a group. My fiance isn't here with his family today for Christmas, and wasn't with me for Channukah because he's half way across the world having his fifth surgery in his f-to-m transition. I have never seen him give a shit about terms. So it's not all transexual people who care or get offended by tranny or cuntboi, or you know induvidual words as opposed to, ya know, the intention and context of those words. Tranny can be a hateful word, absolutely, or it can be the only word someone knows to describe someone transgender. If someone really feels the term is hurtful by it's very nature, you can educate someone on some other terms rather than just be a dick who shouts bigot and cisshitlord.

I mean other people are free to be offended by a word if they feel that way, but people are equally allowed not to give a shit that they're offended.

Gah, don't want to go into terms too much here, since I know it's a can of worms but:

I refuse to call a transexual a woman because to me, they're not. Transgender is a little different than transsexual but that can take some explaining, still you may just want to look the terms up if you have a spare minute. Most people who complete full surgical transition are transsexual, transexual is black and white being born opposite gender of what you were biologically born. Versus transgender which is a whole range of transition stages, and identities, which might never include surgical transition. Basically I try and respect someone's gender labels when they ask, since it's not trouble to me and meaningful to them- even if I think they may be . If someone has legally changed their gender on all ID, have notes on their medical file to be referred to as X gender, no matter what surgical stage they are in I always respect that even if I can tell they are still in transition, to put it politely.