What do you want OP? Do you want to go back to the single life and look for validation through getting hit on and attention from other men? It’s an understandable need. Or do you want to work to improve your marriage ? If it’s the latter, you will have to fully commit to it. You both can do better. Way better. Cold quitting marriage is very easy, just quietly back away from each other and stop making any effort to connect or even acknowledging the lack of connection. You’ll find yourself or your partner in extramarital affairs. It’s not a judgement, it’s just how human relationships tend to work. We crave intimacy and validation through relationships.

Step one is talk to your partner about the state of your marriage. If he’s willing to work at this - commit to therapy, understanding each others needs, better communication- you both can have a go of it. But you BOTH have to want it. Or, you both have to not want it. You need to figure out what is best for yourself. Just know that the answers to all your needs aren’t ever fully going to be me with the “right” partner.

It’s tough. I can relate to having a partner who is very different. We don’t share a lot of the same interests and view the world very differently. We enjoy different things. We also married too quickly. It’s been almost 20 years. It is a long road, but through it all we both wanted to stay married.