I was in a similar situation as you. My (ex)husband and I got married in my home country (usa) and a few years later we decided to move to Finland so he can finish his school. Finland is an amazing, very safe, and secure country. That being said, I HATED being here, for the same reasons as you. I'm seen as an outsider, the american culure I was raised in clashes with the Finnish culture, and i havent made a single friend. I begged my husband to consider moving back to the usa with me but he would keep saying the same things as ur husband.. "things will get better" "i promise to help u feel more comfortable in this country" and nothing.... hes changed completely from the man i knew him back in my country. It was driving me crazy, I would often cry to myself and feel worthless. I was so frustrated and just last week I finally made the decision to leave. It was very difficult for me to make this decision because I kept questioning whether I was being selfish for wanting to leave, whether things will really atart getting better, whether he would come with me or not.. we had a huge fight last week and i decided I wasn't having enough of it, I want to do what makes ME happy and not let him push or use me around. I bought a flight ticket back home, i talked to my family about having a place to stay once i return, i even got my old job back! It is soooooooo difficult to immigrate to a new country with a whole different culture and language, I didnt understand this struggle until I had to deal with it myself. Please for the sake of your sanity, do what makes you happy! Stand your ground if he tries to give you false hope again, you're a strong woman. It will be so worth it in the end, I promise. I havent felt so happy like I do now in such a long time, I feel like a different person. Stuff like buying a plane ticket, finding housing, getting full custody, etc. will work itself out once you tell yourself for sure 100% that you're making the right choice, and let me tell you, it will be the right choice