My (32M) fiancee (32F) wants to go to a bath house without me and I am not comfortable with this.

Let's get psychological and put my cards on the table here.. I guess it's childish, and again, I know I am being possessive, but I feel like there is an enigma to a human body clothed and nude. That's literally why we have those on/off subreddits and fetishes or strip clubs where men pay just to see women expose themselves. It's the idea of seeing a person at their most vulnerable. I feel like it removes intimacy away from what I get to experience, my being able to appreciate seeing her nude, if other people also get to do it.

It's my own opinion of what makes sex so exciting is the skin, which is also why television, magazines, and the like use less clothes to attract more attention, or why "the fappening" exploded so huge. It's basic biology. If you are attracted to a person, seeing them nude just reinforces that feeling you already had.

I do trust her, but at the same time, I also fear that I don't know the details. She has been looking for excuses to get naked with these girls (skinny dipping and such) for as long as I have known her. I know she wants to see what they have going on as much as they are curious about her. It doesn't feel as innocent as I wish it did. If I were trying to get a woman I knew closely to get naked with me but "nothing sexual" happens it still wouldn't be entirely pure.

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