Yeaah I think I focused too much on that line I quoted and overlooked some of that. I really do agree with the marriage before buying a home for certain, that's a major financial decision and commitment that you do not want to be locked into during a break up. I've seen way too many posts on other subreddits about couples who bought houses then broke up, no protection if you're not married.

Assuming I wait until I feel like where ready,

I'm seeing an issue here though, that, combined with

literally told one of my best friends today I think I was going to propose soon

You're talking to other people about it, and planning things out. You guys said you would start thinking about it at 25. Sounds like she's thinking about things, though kind of weirdly.

You need to figure out what YOU want out of life, figure out a rough time frame for YOU.

Cause I can see why she'd want kids within the next few years. after 30-35 females fertility drops, rates of birth defects rise, you're getting to the best age for kids. Childbirth is easier when you're younger supposedly.

BUT I don't get why she doesn't want to get married before kids. Maybe she's developed some weird fear of marriage. Only she knows!

So like I said, figure out what YOU want. then sit down and try to have a calm rational discussion about both of your expectations and wants out of life. You'll both need to do some compromising and adjusting to accommodate each other if you want to be in each others lives long term. Or maybe you'll realize you both have different wants and that you're not meant to be, which while it will suck is okay too.

hopefully you sort things out