tl;dr: OP Rationalizing decisions.

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I normally wouldn't date someone this young, but its kind just happened while living at uni. We have a lot of the same classes together and similar interests.

I agree we're miles apart in our lives, but we've talked about it and we both understand what we're doing.

We have different plans when we graduate: she wants to leave the country and I'm staying close to home. I stay super encouraging and I want her to exceed and do everything that she has the passion to pursue.

It's super inspiring and rewarding being in a relationship that is focused on building each other up so that we can get a running start when we graduate.

I understand my role in her life (to a certain degree, I'm wrong all the time.) It's a glorified fling and I'm totally okay with that. This is the first time I've dated someone so young but we just spend almost every day together for two years and have developed a close friendship that became romantic.

It's very hard to be in an "ideal" relationship in my position - on one hand I'm making a sacrifice that is going to benefit my future, which can lead to stability -- and on the other hand I'm sacrificing any chance at a stable life for 3+ years after I graduate, so I'm kind of just taking things as they come and not trying to force anyone into a non traditional lifestyle that I'm going to be living for as long as I have to.

I think I would have a hard time being in a serious relationship with someone my age who would date me at this point in my life.

I agree that 20 is way too young to build a traditional life with, but in this little part of both our lives, we found people who can make us happy for the time being, and a friend down the road.

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