I am so sorry for your loss. We went through a miscarriage over the summer and we're just now getting back into the headspace to start trying again.

So I'm the husband and it was hard on us as a couple. I pretty much instantly wanted to just start trying immediately whereas it took her much longer. She went through just so much, and much like your husband I really wanted to make it better but couldn't. I tried to be there for her as best as I could... She did read a book called "trying again" I think which helped. I did offer if she wanted to talk to a therapist but she declined.

None of this is very helpful I guess. He needs to be there more for you to be sure. This is so tough and again I'm very sorry.