Thanks for the advice.

My previous relationships were different and in general I never took any abuse from anyone in my life - I dont usually deal with this. I also never looked at any of this as her being abusive to be honest, never even crossed my mind. I always looked at it as her having a lot of her issues that she needs to work on and most of them started getting much better over time. She does not lose her temper over small things anymore and is really doing better in general. Plus, in a lot of the situations I realized too late that I could have avoided them if I said certain things before. For example : The issues with staying out too long when I dont want to, that more or less got sorted out when I told her that we need to communicate better while we are out and that I am done with pushing myself. Once we had a calm discussion about this, things did get better ( until the other day, then it resurfaced ). But the throwing water on me while I am in bed, thats definitely abusive on another level.

I married her because I saw progress and I saw that she is getting much better and that we resolved tons of our issues ( which were usually smaller things and now when I think about them I cant believe that I even had to have arguments around them ). I also saw that I was becoming a much better person next to her and that outside of these things our relationship is amazing.