I want to start off by saying that I’m sorry about your situation. Cancer really, really sucks.

I’m experiencing something similar now. My mom was told her cancer was going to kill her a few months ago, so I have weeks of dealing with this kind of thing under my belt. I think the best thing you can do for your mom right now is be there for whatever she needs. My mom likes her alone time, too, but I like to sit with her and talk and let her rant about the things that are bothering her every day (especially now that she can’t really move.) Helping around the house if you don’t already would also mean the world to her I’m sure! I try to do all the errand-running/dog-walking/cleaning up I can manage.

It sounds like you’re already understanding what she’s feeling, but keep in mind it’ll probably take a while for her to come to terms with her diagnosis. Keep empathizing with and loving your mom. Wishing the best for you and your family!