I dont know how she became depressed but I feel like it was related to her job. I have no clue how to talk to her about it.

I see people here every day asking some form of, "My loved one is suicidal, how should I deal with it? What to i do to make them better? How do I fix this? How do I help them?" And the first piece of advice I give them is always the same.

Ask. You want to know how you should speak to her? Ask her, then do it. You want to know whether or not she wants to speak with anyone at all? Ask, then do what she asks.

You want to know why she's feeling this way? Ask, (if she wants to talk about it) and then listen. You don't to know how to help her? Ask her what she wants you to do.

You may not like the answers she gives. She may not want to talk. She may not want to be "fixed" or "helped." And you will have to respect that.

Here's the thing: being forcibly thrown into a hospital against your will and locked up in a room or strapped to a bed and told to take your medication or you'll be restrained even further and forced to take it? That's beyond traumatizing. For some people, it destroys their trust. They don't want help after that, some for a long time, if ever. Some are okay with it. Some aren't. And your sister may not want to talk to any of you. She may see you as just wanting to change her....to "fix" her, or to "help" her into being the way you want her to be. I'm not saying you're bad people, but I'm saying if it were me, that's what I'd think, and I'd hate my family for it, I truly believe.

Having the cops called on me did that to me. So the bottom line is: you want to know how to help, how she feels, what to do, and why she's feeling whatever she is....you have to ask, and then you have to respect what she wants. Because of being locked up and forcibly drugged, (this is what I would feel) the emotion she's probably feeling right now is "betrayed". Not trusted. Not loved. No care for. She may feel okay, and if she is that's great, but i can't assume that so I'm giving you to more problematic scenario. She may feel like you just see her as a sick, "depressed" person, when she may or may not feel that way.

I can only tell you that if it were me, I'd know that my family just saw me as a depressed, suicidal, sick person who "Needed to be helped," and that they were going to make me get helped because "we want what's best for you"....even if I didn't want it. So I'd hate them, and never want to see them again. That's just me.

Maybe your sister will be happy. Maybe she'll feel good that she's getting in a place where if she asks for help she can try to get it.

The thing you can do for her most is to not treat her or look at her or think of her as someone who needs to be "helped" or "fixed" or changed....unless that's what she wants too. The most patronizing thing in the world is to have everyone tell you you need to be changed and helped and fixed and know that that's not true, but no one will listen. It tore out a lot of my hope and I've never really trusted much of anyone since then.

Lastly understand that you cannot force someone not to commit suicide. She may not want to. But you can't make someone not commit just because you don't want to, and it may be something you don't like but may need to accept.

TL:DR: You want to help her, then ask her what how, and respect what she says. Understand she may not trust you all anymore after what happened, and be prepared for that. Finally, don't look at her as someone who needs to be fixed or changed, unless that's what she wants.

I hope that helps.