If the bar situation was an isolated incident, I'd have no problem with finding another place to go or just calling it a night and heading home. But it wasn't. These days unless it's exactly what she wants to do, she's not doing it. And when that effects other people, yeah, I think it's pretty selfish and rude.

I don't think I or our friends take advantage of her or anybody, really. I tend to think we're all pretty reasonable. I know there are times when I do something because everyone else wants to, even though it's not exactly what I'm in the mood for. And I know my friends are the same way. It's what you do when you're participating in a group activity. Rarely is everyone going to be equally enthusiastic 100% of the time.

And again, that's one example. The airplane thing? That's just rude as hell. She had nothing to do that day. She could've waited 20 minutes so that they could fly together. 20 minutes is nothing when traveling. Instead she just outright said no. I know if a friend acted the same way my wife did to me, I'd think they were really selfish.