I want to point out that they’re 24 years old and essentially poor. His wife has not yet graduated and is still trying to get her degree while also being disabled. Please pull back on the judgment. You don’t know the full story. And it’s likely OP also has his fair share of unexamined trauma if he’s decided to be in a relationship with an unhealed person who is financially dependent on him.

At 24 years old I was overdrinking and dissociating to deal with my trauma. Healing can be a deeply painful process with ample resources and stability. And without ample resources and stability, it can be near impossible bc you’re constantly in survival mode.