There's a difference between sexual attraction and a fetish. A man who is attracted to a woman doesn't have a vagina fetish, he's just attracted to her beauty, it's instinctual. In my mind, a fetish is more about a singular sexual attachment to a concept, and not a sexual attraction. For example, if I date a girl and love her and find her sexy, and she just so happens to be trans, then I loved her for her. If I pursue her because I know she's trans, and trans is my fetish, then I don't love her really- I just like that specific thing about her.

It'd be more like say, pursuing a woman because she looks good in latex. You don't like the person, even the sexual aspect of the person. You just like the latex.

Imagine if you said to someone, 'I don't like you, I just like how you look in latex.'

That'd suck to hear.