Can I explain what it’s like to make yourself want sex when you really don’t.

It makes you feel like you are acting in someone else’s skin, nerves so bad that you find yourself questioning everything from how you hold your hand to how to even form words.

As a society we are bombarded with idea of banter and joking and lightening the mood. She clearly did not mean to say something that is construed as hurtful, which is only hurtful due to toxic gender rules.

And I get what she’s saying, she finally plucked up the courage to do something, then said something stupid and was shouted at. Actually think about it, no matter what reason being shouted at whilst you are literally being penetrated is traumatic.

Now what she said was stupid, and he has the right to feel upset about it if he feels it hurts his feeling. But why does his hurt trump her trauma.

He should have just stopped calmly.