Two plutos conjunct my ascendant stand out. Didn't date either of them, I acted indifferent on purpose and avoided them. The energy was too intense, I didn't trust the power it could have over me. I had very strong feelings for both. It took 8 years to get over the 1st, and less than 1 year to get over the 2nd. For me it was entirely dependent on how kind they were.
For the 1st one, it was hard. He felt like someone I had known forever, and I loved him. He felt more familiar and loving than my own family. We connected really well, but it scared both of us too. We'd be best friends one day, and avoiding eachother the next. We were practically telepathic. He was in a relationship so I kept my distance. His gf decided to go to school out in Cali, so he proposed to her. He left the state abruptly without saying goodbye. I saw him 6 years later when I was in LA and he invited me to a party at his house. I finally got to say goodbye, it gave me closure. I'll never forget him though and I know that if I ever see him again I would feel the same towards him.
The 2nd one was easier to let go of because he had a bad influence. Married man who I was assigned to be the assistant of. The sexual tension was off the charts, it felt like a crazy type of lust. Worse, he over shared intimate details about himself and I liked who he was so I craved to know him on a deeper level... I started avoiding face to face contact with him because it felt inappropriate and I didn't want any problems. We sat near eachother and it was unbearable. Some days we couldn't stand sitting at our desks at the same time. He turned aggressive over time, he would pick me apart and get angry for no good reason. Kept a petty file of my wrong doings to hand to my manager at the end of the year. My manager had my back and told him these things were normal for the nature of my job. He tried to smear me amongst colleagues, I felt I was being pushed out of that department. He wanted me gone, and I wanted away from him. I transferred departments and felt joy when I knew I didn't have to see him again. I am really angry at him, so there is nothing to get over.