I guess I forgot to bring this up, but we had a discussion about a year ago when I started to feel like things were off. I mentioned that I felt like we weren't connecting like we used to (we were both really stressed out from starting new jobs in a new place), and that I felt like I was falling out of love. He said we should try and communicate more. I didn't want to throw away this relationship then, so I stayed, and I tried to communicate more. Obviously, it hasn't worked out. I did tell him the other day that we wont be in contact when I leave. That's when all communication stopped.

Someone here pointed out that it seems like I try and initiate conversations because I'm insecure....I think they are absolutely right. About 5 years ago, he left me for someone else, after I had been a depressed, lonely ball of mush for a year. After about a year, we got back together, and I kind of vowed to myself that we would be better at communicating so that I always knew where we stood. It went well for a few months (we would bring up things that bothered us immediately, like he would say, "hey, I noticed the dishes aren't being done, and I don't mind doing them, want to trade that chore for the litterbox?" or whatever, not really heavy stuff) but then he just kind of stopped. That's what started this whole, I initiate "communcation", because he just wouldn't. I wouldn't know how he felt about the dishes until I asked him, once every couple months, how he felt things were going. Then he would explode about the dishes. I agree we shouldn't HAVE to talk about anything, but that's the only way I can get him to talk about anything that relates to us and how we function. It's definitely unhealthy, I guess.