Girl 6
On the first date we could only spend an hour together. I couldn’t make my mind up if she was quirky or just awkward. She didn’t seem too interested in talking with me, but as we walked back to the metro station she was very touchy.
Two days later I suggest she comes over to my place to have fun, she responds positively. We end up watching a movie, I touch her a bit but she’s not reacting. She asks to see the next movie in the series. I’m still trying to move things forwards but she has no reaction whatsoever. No sound, no movement, she doesn’t touch me in return. If I look at her face to gauge her reaction, she says « what?! » and looks away. I start thinking she’s not attracted to me or that I’m completely incompetent at turning her on, but then why isn’t she stopping me? But then as I caress her inner thighs, I noticed that her jeans are soaked all the way through! Maybe she just feels self-conscious? As I start removing some of her clothes, she insists: « only make out, no sex ».
Eventually we move to the bedroom and she ends up naked, while I’m still fully clothed, furiously trying to get a reaction out of her. I keep thinking she will eventually relax and get into it but she sticks with the dead fish strategy. After 3-4 hours of this bullshit, I start kissing her near her crotch just to tease her. She does start rubbing my back, and ever so gently pushing my head down to her pussy… Haha! No way girl, you ain’t getting any of that tongue magic.
I felt terrible after this, and almost cancelled the date I had planned on the next day:
Girl 7
Oh man, when I saw this girl’s profile… she’s gorgeous, and exactly my type. She’s very open-minded, does street photography, lifts weights, etc. Her profile states that she’s just looking to kill time and she won’t meet anyone.
For two weeks I keep messaging her, generally getting only one-word replies, but she keeps answering. With any other girl I would have given up, but not this one. Eventually I tell her I want to meet her, and she agrees. She says I’m the first guy she meets, normally she’s too lazy to change her routine to make room for a date.
We meet at a metro station halfway between our places, with no clear plans. I suggest we go back to my apartment complex to hang out next to the outdoor pool. She agrees « but, hmmm… no sex! » Ok, no problem! We start walking to my place, and right away it’s so damn comfortable. She is smiling, she’s playful.
We arrive at my apartment, and we decide to stay inside with the AC. We talk, we make each other laugh. She tells me she can show me how to cook Thai food. I suggest watching « The Wolf of Wall Street », she loves it. We start touching, kissing, grinding, she gives and takes, it all goes so smoothly. We pause the movie at the midpoint to go to the bedroom. Her body is amazing. It’s getting late and she goes back home. As we say goodbye, I go to kiss her cheek and she goes for my lips.
A couple of days later, she comes over to watch the end of the movie. We end up in the bedroom again, it’s so much fun. Being with her feels so nice. But as she gets ready to leave, she asks me « What are you looking for on Tinder? I’m not looking for lots of sex. You’re leaving in a few days, maybe coming back occasionally over the next few months… it feels like wasting time ».
Since then, we’ve sent a few messages back and forth but I’m doubting we will meet again. She’s just updated her Tinder profile, which now states « no tourist, no hookup ».
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I’m quite sad about the last girl, and it made me realize just how much I long for intimacy after months of solo travel. Sex is nice, but the truth is I’d much rather fall asleep spooning someone I like. I’ve said goodbye too many times over the last few months.