40 minutes in the can? What is it with men? My husband would spend the same amount of time in the restroom all at once if I allowed it. I finally had to get on him about how he comes home, says hi to his son and heads for the restroom for 10 min. Then he eats and goes directly back into the restroom for another 20 min to drop another load and shower. It used to be practically an hour each time. It’s a thankless job being a mom. My husband thinks his idea of helping me is taking the kids to his moms. Why? So his mom can deal with the kids. While I stay home and clean. What I really want is for him to help me out around here.

I read this article about how we should stop asking our husbands to do stuff for us because it’s a part of being active in the household. It’s common sense to throw out the restroom trash if it’s overflowing or change the TP if the roll is empty, ya know? But it never caught on in my house.

My MIL Had an abusive relationship with his dad. Which is why I feel she coddles him. He never left the house till he was 26. He has Peter Pan syndrome. DH isn’t a full on narcissist, but he is pretty selfish. He sometimes pockets cash needed to pay for bills and hides beer cans around the house. Some place unsafe for the kiddos. MIL has the tendency to brush major issues off and laugh about it inappropriately. I honestly feel she has no idea what she’s done to her son. He has no idea how to prioritize and it’s like bills never mattered to either of them because they’re always behind on making payments. It’s like carrying an anchor. Oh and forget DH standing up to MIL for anything, she just laughs at her son and disregards what he says.