From my perspective, it looks like our argument is primarily a failure to communicate effectively. I concede that I could have been more clear and less hyperbolic when I said, "Also, the creepy AGP crowd won. It's their community now and we can't stop them." I really just meant that reasonable trans people can't police the transgender community in the same way that, for instance, reasonable gay men police their own community. I exaggerated. I tried to clarify that several times. We are vastly outnumbered, though, so it is a challenge. Also, I don't consider myself part of their community. They call themselves "trans," but I don't think that makes them trans. They call themselves "lesbians," but that doesn't make them lesbians. That doesn't mean I don't have a responsibility to stand up to them (I do because they're males and so am I), but they're really good at getting their way.

As for the bathroom issue, detransition is obviously a delicate matter. It involves a lot of complicated issues (e.g., bathrooms). I have to decide how to handle these issues and I made the decision to continue using the women's room for a few months. Switching bathrooms now would severely complicate my life and I'm not willing to sacrifice that, since I know I'm not there to bother anyone. I stand by my decision, but you're perfectly free to disagree. Plenty of women think it's OK for me to use the women's room; their voices count just as much as yours.

Regarding this sub, if you want to make it a women-only space, go right ahead. For the time being, it's not. I can't respect boundaries that you haven't declared. To that end, I'm not sorry for posting here. I don't agree with much of the criticism I've encountered on this particular thread; I don't think much of it has been reasonable. However, feel free to consider yourself the winner of this argument. I concede.

This sub has helped me to make my decision to detransition. I know that's not why you're here. I know that's not what this sub is about. However, I benefited from this sub, so thank you.

I have been way too into reddit since I joined. I like debating and I've been thinking about gender even more than I usually do lately. So, I'm spending far too much time here and posting too much, too. That's fine for now; I've had a boring couple of weeks, but I'm expecting that to change soon, so I should really peace. To be clear, I don't mean this as a slight to you or other redditors. Some people can drink socially without becoming alcoholics. Some can't. Some people can participate in debate forums without getting sucked in. Some can't (I clearly can't). Next time I get bored, I will learn to play tennis. I've been meaning to do that for a while now.

I'll continue to do what I can for the gender critical cause in real life, and sometimes online, too (it's not like I'm leaving the internet). I don't expect to accomplish anything revolutionary, but I'll do my part.

I'll probably find my way back to reddit eventually, under a different username. I may lurk on gender critical subs, but I'm done participating in debate forums for the time being. I will go through my posts to make sure I haven't left anything behind that could identify me, but then I'm out.

Best wishes for the future!