Sometimes it’s a battle. That’s what it’s all about though, just being a good, like-able, understanding person. There’s a chance you just haven’t met the right people I suppose. There is definitely a balance between trying to hard and being to relaxed but once the friendship is formed that stuff happens naturally if you truly like eachother it won’t matter.

I would say just keep trying, I consider myself a total POS but for whatever reason I seem to be able to form decent friend groups wherever I have been in life. I don’t fucking know why either haha. I wish I could offer more advice other then just let it happen naturally and be an open person.