UPDATE: My friend is about to ask his girlfriend to marry him, but I’m the only one who knows how unfaithful she is. Do I say anything?

Man....When my ex started being unfaithful I could sense it but nobody EVER told me. I was with her for 14 years and still have no clue how long she was actually screwing around. The fact that she did this hurt a lot but it was nothing compared to the devastation of finding out that legit every single person we hung around knew about it and nobody ever said a word. As time went on more and more things came to light....while I was present, things happened....with people I trusted, acquaintances I thought were becoming my friends....girls and guys. I can not begin to describe how hard I shattered. It was so bad and involved literally everybody I knew so I straight up ditched my self respect bc I was manipulated into thinking I was being crazy and emotionally abusive when I became upset about it, ppl convinced me that this was just how things were and I was a controlling boyfriend. Guys I had never even seen before would walk up to me and her and start being like "hey! Been forever!" Etc etc and I'm sitting there humiliated while they continue hitting on her and implying things. Two people I thought were my best friends also betrayed me. This fucking crippled my mind bc I no longer knew who to trust, I built impenetrable walls and became cold towards others but would cry myself to sleep while being called a coward.

It's been a year since I cut everyone out of my life. Every. Person. And I can feel myself becoming me again...wanting to live, wanting to seek out all kinds of relationships and just live life.

People.....please...do not just sit quietly and let someone be humiliated like this. If you're the type to participate then you should be ashamed of yourself. (It was like some ppl got off on it. Weird.)

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