Having sex when you don't feel like it is awful (I refuse to now), it frustrates me that it's still seen as an expectation in relationships and marriage, even if it's not outright painful you still feel like a blow up doll, it messes with you mentally and builds resentment. But of course, it's "not a big deal" "just spread your legs". Could you imagine menHaving sex when you don't feel like it is awful (I refuse to now), it frustrates me that it's still seen as an expectation in relationships and marriage, even if it's not outright painful you still feel like a blow up doll, it messes with you mentally and builds resentment. But of course, it's "not a big deal" "just spread your legs". Could you imagine men putting up with pain and feeling like that? putting up with pain and feeling like that?

The entire "4 of 8 Say Yes to Sex More Often" section is particularly horrifying:

It may not sound sexy, but setting a date ensures the sex will actually happen

And this

Many men find it erotically charging when the woman is very affirming during sex,” McCarthy says. “He enjoys hearing things like, ‘That really feels good’ or ‘I’m really turned on’ or moans.” It doesn’t hurt that doing so will mean more enjoyable sex for you since men assume silence means you’re happy.

And when you’re not happy, don’t stay mum. A lot of guys tell Dow that they want to know what they're doing wrong—but then they’re pretty upset when they find out they're not the best lover in some ways. Criticism will make a man defensive, Dow says, so think positively

Lol only way I've ever had sex I enjoyed was telling them "stop that, do this", you can't stop something that hurts or isn't enjoyable if you're only "allowed" to be positive, but remember don't stay silent while not criticising during your biweekly obligation to have sex with him.